Assalam Alaykum,

We live in a time where women are seen as possessions and the prize is ‘capturing’ the best of them. This won’t be a problem if the criteria for being the best is in religion and morals as documented in The Woman I Want To Be by @ms_hanie; however the prize in question is how she looks on the outside. Some men intentionally allow and even encourage their wives to dress up in ways that will make other men look at her. This could be because they are proud of the beauty she possesses. Men should strive to encourage our wives and female relatives to cover up and dress in a way that is pleasing to Allaah and not for the rest of society. There is nothing wrong with wanting a woman that looks good but one must do well not to lose one's gheerah. Gheerah simply is protective jealousy and the men who lack this are called Dayooth. A Dayooth is the man who doesn’t have protective jealousy of the women he is in care of. He is the man who would always show off his wife and her beauty in front of other men in ways that would stimulate sexual desires. He is the one who does not bother to protect her from the eager eyes of strangers. He is the man who is pleased by the admiring glances from stranger men toward his wife and sisters.  

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth....” - Q4:34

The Prophet (SAW) said:

“Three people will not enter paradise, and Allah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.” - Ahmad

The sisters must also play their part and maintain a level of modesty. No one wants to marry a man who would not make Jannah. As the Prophet (SAW) said The Dayooth will not enter Jannah.

The prophet (SAW) also tells us: 

“The women is object of concealment, when she leaves the house, Shaytaan beautifies her.” - Tirmidhi